There are several things that can boil up my blood, and the media is full of these - current affairs, the downplaying of important issues, over-reacting on simple events/occurrences of history, criticizing known or unknown person on some matter wholly personal to that person...well it is an endless list, same things repeated or newer things added.
It is 40 years of my existence and at least 35 years of understanding and coping with the externals. It ends up leaving me high and dry and feeling hopeless. Since, looking back, certain things look the same, nothing has changed, nothing has progressed in a positive manner. A very negative feeling that spreads fast, leaving my throat constricted, like, something blocking it, and would only leave me if I vented it.
The other day, there was a forwarded text that read, "Psychology says, when you truly care for someone, their mood can literally affect yours". My immediate response/thought was - that is why we should never care about anybody. When I shared the original message with my siblings, I got a wonderful reply from my sister. She wrote, "Very true... That is why I try to keep myself happy and more confident". I don't know what she truly meant, since texts can be interpreted in different ways depending on our mood or mental make up. But, how I interpreted it was - she wanted to keep herself happy and more confident, so that the ones who truly cared for her were affected by her positive mood, in a positive way.
When I communicated my appreciation of her attitude, she replied, "It was because, you always told me... Be Positive". I was flabbergasted (one of my favorite words in English... at last used in my blog *wink*). I am so often reminded by dear ones like her, that I inspire them, I am their pillar of strength... of course it is all very superlative... but what really struck me was, why didn't the thought occur to me. Why did that statement make me feel negative, like, the people whom I cared about were affecting my mood, why didn't I feel that I am capable of changing the mood of people who cared about me?
Well... I need to work on that. Not just say Be Positive... but BE POSITIVE myself. Imagine me as being capable of changing others, rather than worry about being changed by everybody's moods, criticisms, whims and fancies. It was the most positive lesson learnt this week.
So going back to the starting paragraph of this blog... has nothing at all changed? Well... things have changed, for people who wanted to change, positive or negative as they wanted it to be. And can things change? Yes... if everyone WILL to be. Will things change? YES... Why would they not? We, each one, the tiny droplets of the ocean that we maketh, when each one of us change our mind positively, and create positive vibes around us, and the ones who care for us.
It is 40 years of my existence and at least 35 years of understanding and coping with the externals. It ends up leaving me high and dry and feeling hopeless. Since, looking back, certain things look the same, nothing has changed, nothing has progressed in a positive manner. A very negative feeling that spreads fast, leaving my throat constricted, like, something blocking it, and would only leave me if I vented it.
The other day, there was a forwarded text that read, "Psychology says, when you truly care for someone, their mood can literally affect yours". My immediate response/thought was - that is why we should never care about anybody. When I shared the original message with my siblings, I got a wonderful reply from my sister. She wrote, "Very true... That is why I try to keep myself happy and more confident". I don't know what she truly meant, since texts can be interpreted in different ways depending on our mood or mental make up. But, how I interpreted it was - she wanted to keep herself happy and more confident, so that the ones who truly cared for her were affected by her positive mood, in a positive way.
When I communicated my appreciation of her attitude, she replied, "It was because, you always told me... Be Positive". I was flabbergasted (one of my favorite words in English... at last used in my blog *wink*). I am so often reminded by dear ones like her, that I inspire them, I am their pillar of strength... of course it is all very superlative... but what really struck me was, why didn't the thought occur to me. Why did that statement make me feel negative, like, the people whom I cared about were affecting my mood, why didn't I feel that I am capable of changing the mood of people who cared about me?
Well... I need to work on that. Not just say Be Positive... but BE POSITIVE myself. Imagine me as being capable of changing others, rather than worry about being changed by everybody's moods, criticisms, whims and fancies. It was the most positive lesson learnt this week.
So going back to the starting paragraph of this blog... has nothing at all changed? Well... things have changed, for people who wanted to change, positive or negative as they wanted it to be. And can things change? Yes... if everyone WILL to be. Will things change? YES... Why would they not? We, each one, the tiny droplets of the ocean that we maketh, when each one of us change our mind positively, and create positive vibes around us, and the ones who care for us.