The recent discussion in our pantry club turned up to this topic. And well, any crime or for that matter any incident that involves a woman is what evokes interest, or rather what the media feels evokes interest. And when the mastermind seems to be a woman no wonder it tops the headlines, even after as many as three years having passed after the crime. I hear people commenting, “These women are so ambitious, they would do just anything, just anything to realize their dreams. Any God Damn thing... and must be shown their place.”
The same tongues that wagged when Indra Nooyi quoted women can’t have everything.
(The rebel in me asks, do men have everything? All the compromises a man makes at a workplace, well to what degree - differs from individual to individual, but compromises exist. So it’s not just women, even men can’t have everything, there are missed vacations, hobbies that you wanted to make a career that have to be foregone because your family wanted you to share the family’s financial liability, missed moments of holding your baby in your arms the moment she was born, her first talk, her first walk, her first laugh. )
Aren’t there so many men out there, manipulating things and gaining things hook or crook? Well, if there are some 7 men who do that, why does 1 woman doing that come under your scanners as a big blot? I am not supporting the crime or the person who might have done that. A crime is a crime irrespective of the gender of the person who did it is all I wish to say here.
Patriarchy characterizes women as capable of certain things and incapable of certain things. It is because they define rules and limit the capacity of a person as a woman. And it is this preconceived notion that makes them perceive and react this way. I would like to register that just like there are so many wonderful men, who treat us as their equal, who are hurt by character assassination the way we women are, there are a few women who behave differently.
It is so common. Manipulating and scheming are negative qualities and not specific to any particular gender. So don’t scream, shout and start your opinion with, “These women.....” and end with, "... must be shown their places". It only speaks volumes of what you are and not what women are.
The same tongues that wagged when Indra Nooyi quoted women can’t have everything.
(The rebel in me asks, do men have everything? All the compromises a man makes at a workplace, well to what degree - differs from individual to individual, but compromises exist. So it’s not just women, even men can’t have everything, there are missed vacations, hobbies that you wanted to make a career that have to be foregone because your family wanted you to share the family’s financial liability, missed moments of holding your baby in your arms the moment she was born, her first talk, her first walk, her first laugh. )
Aren’t there so many men out there, manipulating things and gaining things hook or crook? Well, if there are some 7 men who do that, why does 1 woman doing that come under your scanners as a big blot? I am not supporting the crime or the person who might have done that. A crime is a crime irrespective of the gender of the person who did it is all I wish to say here.
Patriarchy characterizes women as capable of certain things and incapable of certain things. It is because they define rules and limit the capacity of a person as a woman. And it is this preconceived notion that makes them perceive and react this way. I would like to register that just like there are so many wonderful men, who treat us as their equal, who are hurt by character assassination the way we women are, there are a few women who behave differently.
It is so common. Manipulating and scheming are negative qualities and not specific to any particular gender. So don’t scream, shout and start your opinion with, “These women.....” and end with, "... must be shown their places". It only speaks volumes of what you are and not what women are.